A Friday Kind of Thought is a Tuesday Kind of Love

>> Friday, May 31, 2013

A Tuesday kind of love is this: commuting to work knowing that someone cares about what you’re going to have for lunch; understanding that you do not have to be your dynamic, charming, weekend self this time; this time you can butcher sentences and make bad jokes and trip over thin air and it won’t change anything. A Tuesday kind of love is when weekends and weekdays are one and the same, expanses of time where unpredictable, irreplaceable closeness exists, swells, bursts. Tuesday is directionless conversation about things that happened five hours or five years ago; it’s knowing where he keeps his receipts and when he has a doctor appointment; it’s ordering Chinese food or taking his parents out for dinner because they’re in town or forgetting to eat because you’re full of each other’s words and there’s just no room for anything else.

Source


Funny what age can do =)
Happy Friday, girls!


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Favorite {White} Things

>> Thursday, May 30, 2013

White linens. A white desk. A whiteboard. White underthings. The lilies when it dares. Waking up on Saturdays. The promise of purity. A blank. A fresh start. 


The challenge to stay pure. Cotton. Lacoste's Eau de Lacoste. My favorite white jeans.
A color which seems to whisper, "Love me if you dare."


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Things I Love Sundays: The Ultimate

>> Monday, May 27, 2013


I don’t know how it happened but I am glad it did. The past week was an absolute source of joy despite it being a normal, busy one. I guess it may be because it was off from such a happy start.

Or because it was one of those days where one lets go of all things --- and just finds joy in the Lord. I heard it once from someone I used to work with and back then, I thought, “How does one do that?”

I understand now. Just like what Matthieu Ricard said, do not anchor your happiness on a feeling --- because feelings always have opposites and you will find yourself on the polar end if you lose that feeling.

That was what Pastor Paolo preached today: “When the good becomes the ultimate, that’s when it starts being bad.” Because when we are happy only because of a certain thing like a job promotion, every payday, every time we go shopping, our hearts are hooked on a certain feeling and we will start craving for that every time we don’t get it. And I get it now. I get it why there’s nothing else, no other ultimate than God Himself. When one’s joy is only in the Lord, happiness is unshakeable and stable. Aha. That is why.

And that is all I have to say for today --- that real, unadulterated joy is realest when it is found in God. I know it’s not the easiest thing to do and it can take quite a few stumbles but the rewards are just priceless.

But oh, some lovely things over the weekend:


  1. Our first run of Brighter Days Brunch was a success --- at least I thought it was. Everyone came on Saturday morning, shared lovely food and interacted with our beauty and brains financial advisors. All in all, it was a great morning!


  2. Spent the remaining of Saturday with one of my best friends, Y. We did girl things like talk and talk and talk (of course!), shop, eat sweets and catch The Great Gatsby, which took my heart away. Oh Leonardo Dicaprio, what a splendid actor you are!
  3. Flowers on my desk as I type this. I can never underestimate how glorious it is to have blooms on one’s table!
  4. A blank, white canvass of a white board. Here’s to real-life pins and inspiration.
  5. Life’s surprises --- because you never really know when you’re about to get one. Or three.


Have an amazing week ahead, my dearest readers!
xx

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Accouterments for a good night’s sleep


Back in high school, sleepovers are as frequent as school projects go. It was the ultimate excuse of youth to stay up without breaking daddy’s curfew. Fast forward to the year of the late 20s, sleepovers are replaced by out of town, out of country trips. Nevertheless, a pajama party is always a nice way of having fun with your girlfriends, and/or discovering new things.

As in my case, discovering new things to come with me to sleep. With the increasing number of factors such as 24-hour vehicles on the streets (even residential ones), work stress, daily commute fatigue, complicated relationships and job juggling, falling asleep these days have become harder than it was years ago. While I thought I already had some sort of ritual for falling asleep, a recent sleepover helped me discover more ways of getting into fitful slumber.


Ladies and (maybe) gentlemen, meet my sleepover friends:




L-R: 1) Apollo Pure Petroleum Jelly 2) Satin Eye Mask (from Apostrophe) 3) Knit socks (bought in Tokyo) 4) So True Naturals Peppermint Linen Spray, Php 285 available via SoTrueNaturals.com 5) Zenutrients All is Well Php 190 via Sesou 6) Zen Zest Room Fragrance in Calming variant (Php 180)




  1. Petroleum Jelly – Walking in high heels all day plus open shoes can harden one’s feet. To restore lost moisture, apply pure petroleum jelly on your entire foot. I once got face to face with my foot during yoga and I was petrified at how dry mine were. I never forgot to apply petroleum jelly since then.
  2. Do yourself a lovely favor and the benefit of long, uninterrupted sleep by using an eyemask. I started wearing one since I started working and while friends complain of insomnia and short bouts of sleep, I still manage to maintain eight hours of shut eye every single day. 
  3. To complement #1, don’t forget to lock in the moisture by wearing soft, cute socks. Yes, they must be cute to add to the relaxing feeling of going to bed! 
  4. One of two things I discovered from my friend Sophie, So True Naturals is a local brand, which uses topnotch aromatherapy oils. Their lavender oils are a winner though my personal preference remains to be the peppermint and grapefruit one. To use, I spray this all over my pillows and believe it or not, I get knocked out in 1, 2, 3…
  5. Probably our generation’s Tiger Balm equivalent, Zenutrients All is Well oil is like a magic potion to one’s muscle pains. I rolled this one onto my aching neck and legs and instantly, the cold sensation wiped away the tiredness and I was lulled into relaxation. The minty scent is a very welcome bonus, too.
  6. Here’s a secret why I get sleepy almost immediately when arriving home: I spray Zen Zest’s room spray in Calming as soon as I get into the door. As evidenced in this article, I am an aromatherapy person and I get sleepy at the whiff of something relaxing. If you have trouble getting into sleep, try spritzing this into your bedroom while doing your night skin regimen and (maybe this is just me) see yourself wakeup with very good dreams.
  7. Last and definitely not the least: Read the Bible and pray. I do not claim to be the best Christian but as a human who sins every single day, one way of relaxing is praying and telling Him everything in my heart to ask for forgiveness and to hope. Lately, it's been Philippians, which is my favorite. What a joyful read. 


Any slumber secrets you got there?
Share with me through the comments section!

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Why 30 is not the new 20 + The Winner!

>> Friday, May 24, 2013

The other day, one of my most admired women, Daphne OseƱa-Paez tweeted about one thing we can only dream about:



There are many things, if you ask me. I wish I studied more. I wish TEDtalks existed when I was in my teens. I wish I didn't sleep so much. I wish I wasn't such a bad decision-maker. I wished I focused on quarter life capital instead of quarter life crisis. I wish I spent afternoons going out of my comfort zones instead of sulking myself to sadness. I wish I studied more. Read more, traveled more.

Last weekend, I spent the weekend with my favorite cousin -- whom I treat like a little sister. We spent the weekend treating ourselves to a spa day and eating Razon's Halo Halo because it was sweltering hot. And of course, talking about trivial things. 

Without giving much away, I told her all of my life's regrets -- and that hopefully, she doesn't have to go through them too. If you're a twentysomething who always think that things won't get better --- well, they do. Someday, you will wake up and realize that the time you spent obsessing over a job that never happened / a failed relationship / a failure / anything that gets you down --- you'd wish you just sucked it up and moved on. You are who you think you are --- those days will make up for your lifetime. Make every day count --- take it from me. I wasted so many years crying over spilled milk. To be more precise, I spent a good number of years crying over a guy who doesn't like me.

Please don't be like the younger me.

And if you don't believe me, here's a wonderful, wonderful TEDtalks video by Meg Jay. I promise you, that you will feel better and empowered as I have been.


Do not waste your 20s. Let's not.

Much love,
Tara


PS: Congratulations, Mela Sy, for winning my Ultimate Diamond Facial giveaway! =)

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You'll Come

>> Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Here's a thing: I add random songs into my three four year old iPod, play everything in random shuffle and let whatever song that comes up underscore whatever is happening into my life.

Yesterday, as I was cleaning my bathroom, recounting the funny, serendipitous details of my day, this song, a recommendation from my friend, Sophie, came into play.

You'll Come | Hillsong United

Unlike my other favorite Christian songs that hinges on humble forgiveness, this one resounds of pure joy and acceptance of Jesus into life. Neither is better than the other but yesterday, as I reviewed the state of my life, my personal instances, it was a perfect fit.

Everyday is a new day to start all over again, was what I thought. Every day is a new day to hold on to Christ's hands, to faith.

I have decided I have resolved
To wait upon you Lord
My rock and redeemer shield, and reward
I'll wait upon you Lord

Prechorus
As surely as the sun will rise
You'll come to us
As certain as the dawn appears

Chorus
You'll come let your glory fall
As you respond to us
Spirit Rain, flood into our thirsty hearts again
You'll come.

Verse 2
We are not shaken we are not moved
We wait upon you Lord
Mighty deliverer triumph and truth
We wait upon you Lord

As surely as the sun will rise you'll come to us
Certain as your word endures. 

CHORUS

Bridge
Chains be broken
Lives be healed
Eyes be opened
Christ is revealed


It's amazing how Jesus works wonderful ways =) Have a blessed Tuesday!

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Why Monday mornings are sacred

>> Monday, May 20, 2013

I came to work today bounding off the walls --- you can tell I am happy. 

Today, I'm grateful that I had my morning to myself, attending to chores and eating a healthy breakfast and most of all, devoting precious hours to learning. When I moved closer to where I work, people who knew me predicted that I would coming in earlier than I usually did. And I did.

Until I realized that I wasn't the type. I felt like I was being robbed off of something every morning and felt empty in the evenings.

Then I reverted to my best routines -- that is, I wake up, pray {most of the time at least}, fix my bed, clean, prepare my breakfast, brew my coffee and read. I read about two to three chapters of business books {right now it's Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In and Tim Ferriss' The Four Hour Workweek} and watch TED.

I am truly grateful that I had the pleasure of watching these videos this morning and I am blessed with the beautiful knowledge imparted to me.

Especially you, Matthieu Ricard. You've made my day.

The Habits of Happiness by Matthieu Ricard


Why we make bad decisions by Dan Gilbert



Sending you lots of love and happiness!
xx

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Chronicles of Skin: The Ultimate Diamond Facial at Skin, The Spa + Giveaway!

>> Friday, May 17, 2013


The phrase The Spa will always be two syllables that will bring the image of relaxation to mind. Apart from the usual fare of kneading, The Spa has always been a favorite urban retreat for the simple reason that their ginger tea is a concoction that will make you want to stay inside it forever.

However, on a (hot) Tuesday afternoon, I was in for something different as I turned right to SKIN, instead of turning left to the spa reception. I was feeling a wee bit dull in the face area and when weekends and holidays have been devoted to housework, a girl can opt for a facial instead.


The first order of every facial (and girls, you must remember this) is a talk with the dermatologist to discuss your skin’s state, while sipping hot ginger tea, of course. SKIN’s derma (who had a fabulous perm and perfect poreless skin) had been a kind and listening ear to my skin woes. I told her about my breakout episode last year where nothing, NOTHING, could stop my breakout. As I recently discovered, I have no hyperthyroidism, as I was previously told so it was probably just a bad case of stress mixed with a breakout phase. Thankfully, I had no breakouts this time, just acne scars from decades ago. She recommended dermaroller --- which I promised myself I would save up for, even if the maximum recovery would just be up to 85% of the skin.

After my long quandary on the topic of skin, I moved towards questioning her about why I had such intense hairfall --- so much so that I asked her if I was dying. LOL. The derma conducted a bit of hairfall test on me and surprise! My hairfall rate was just normal. She said that if 3 out of 10 of your hair falls, then that’s something to be concerned about. I had 0 and had a total of 50 for an entire day. The threshold is up to 200. HA!

The Ultimate Diamond Facial

To tell you candidly, I was every bit of ready to face pricking --- tiis ganda, in local parlance. I knew from experience that there was always some pain from the pricking wherein your facialist would ask you “Ma’am, masakit ba?” through your tear-stained face. I was ready but the pain, when it came, was tolerable and get this --- done by the dermatologist herself.

The facial itself consisted of the usual treat of cleansing the face properly. Like any other The Spa massage, I almost dozed off into oblivion. According to Dra., massages keep the blood circulation in the face. The point of regular facials is to clean the face of accumulated dirt that normal cleansing do not remove. Whereas normal facials are just clean and go, this one included a diamond peel which is a softer version of peels, yet a tougher way to exfoliate. In a nutshell, it’s a procedure worthy of becoming a routine every three weeks or so.

That, and you get to have the ginger tea again after your treatment :P


To inquire about Ultimate Diamond Facial, you can call SKIN at 4038000 /  09178092399 or visit them at SKIN Dermatology and Laser Center inside The Spa Welness, The Fort Bonifacio Highstreet Taguig City. Opening Soon at Shangri-la Mall. 

NOW, the fun part: one lucky reader will get to go through the same luxurious treatment as I have, which is the Ultimate Diamond Facial! All you have to do are:






Winner will be drawn on Friday, May 24, 2013. Goodluck!



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Chronicles of Cream Blush: Bobbi Brown Sheer Cherry Cheek Tint

>> Thursday, May 16, 2013


For so many years, I have shied away from anything cream, liquid or anything that needs to be blended. You see, growing up, I had the most hideous acne – which produced the yuckiest scars. Surely, they’re still there and my cheeks have scars but I guess aging has a way of making things seem better.

When Bobbi Brown came out with a Pink + Red collection, I was iffy to try out the red stuff because a) I am almost never a red lipstick kind of person and b) I hadn’t worn cream blush in a long, long time.



Bobbi Brown’s Sheer Cherry cheek tint comes off as a scary, intimidating true red at first. When I first opened the fab twist cap, I was thinking all sorts of ways to tone down the redness of it so I could wear it everyday. Upon swatching on the back of my hands, it was just perfect.



The Good:

Where have I been all this time? Cream blush is perfect, especially if you have dry skin. Of course, I don’t have dry skin (combination) but I make it work instead by patting Bobbi Brown Retouching Powder in Yellow most days. BB Sheer Cherry makes it impossible to look over-flushed because you can always blend with your fingers once you’ve swiped your cheeks already.

No scent. Goody.

Blendable.

Natural. Can’t get over the fact that for once in this lifetime, red looks actually good on me (walang kontra! =P)

The packaging. Bobbi Brown, hands down, is the topnotcher when it comes to classy, consistent packaging. Love the elegant black casing of everything.

Wear it everyday. This has been my consistent blush for daytime --- and in case I need something stronger for nighttime, I highlight it with BYS Bronzing Powder.

Not bad at Php 1,350 a pop.




Bobbi Brown Sheer Cherry Cheek Tint is available at all Bobbi Brown counters at Rustan’s.

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Chronicles of the Eight-Hour Sleep: The Fake Up

>> Wednesday, May 15, 2013


One of the truly good things about my life is my ability to fall asleep anywhere, anytime and up to eight hours or more. When I hear about my friends and their sleeping patterns, I sometimes get envious that I cannot sleep in the wee hours and wake up looking like a fresh daisy at 7 AM. If I sleep at 2 AM, I would much rather not sleep at all than wakeup at 10 AM.

If you’re any of the Team E (hullo, girls!), you would know how “mantika” I sleep, too. Throw in an angry dog, noisy neighbors and morning chika and you would find me still in blissful sleep. I don’t know where I get that.

Now, as we grow older, I find that even with good sleep, our undereyes develop so much more baggage than it did when we were in our teens. It used to be that we had zero to minimal eye baggage – and now, even with eight hour sleeps, we look a bit haggard and worn out. And when it does happen: there’s always the concealer.

There are only a few concealers I tote around everywhere with me. Let me introduce to you the newest one in my stash, specifically designed to hide eye bags and fine lines AND moisturize those areas, too.



In real life, faking it may sound like a bad idea but when you’re sad and you try to fake happiness, it does come true! It’s a personal belief that if you see yourself eyebag-less and with healthy vibrant skin, it will eventually happen, too!




Anyway, here’s a short and sweet lineup of good and bad:

The Good:

Hydrating. There are only a few creamy concealers in the market and Benefit’s Fake Up tops that list. This fact is due to the addition of Vitamin E and appleseed extract to the semi-transparent external portion of the stick as you can see in the photo. It’s truly a treat to swipe the Fake Up stick onto the under eye and pat gently with the ring finger because it glides on ever so smoothly!



Perfect for touch ups. There was a day in my working life that I had spent the entire day crying in front of my computer --- I just had such bad day I couldn’t stop crying but I needed to work so I had been doing a strategy deck while crying my eyes into puffiness. By end of day, I had a dinner to go to so I swiped Fake Up very quickly in the car and during dinner, no one could tell I had been crying all day. True story.

Once you go Fake Up … Prior to using Fake Up, I used a drugstore brand which delivered but lacked in the brightening department. After using Fake Up (which I mix with High Beam and It’s Potent), I was spoiled silly by the way the concoction lighted up my face (yes, feeling!). I have stopped feeling dry under my eyes, too. Guess the apple seed extract and Vitamin E worked!



The packaging! I love that it’s like a lipstick and fits my makeup bag perfectly.


The Not too good:

This product, in my opinion, is designed for the undereyes. It has a bit of tendency of slide off if applied in oilier areas like the chin. You may have to turn to powder and/or matte concealers for those.

If you live in an area more humid than Manila (now, how is that possible?), it might not stand the test of weather. Then again, if it can withstand Manila weather (which it does), then you’re in good hands.

Other than that, there is nothing I can think negative of this product. Hooray for Benefit’s Fake Up!


Benefit Fake Up is available at Benefit stores in Greenbelt 5, Shangri La Plaza and soon in Trinoma at Php 1,300.

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Things to be grateful for

>> Tuesday, May 14, 2013


It was a Friday, and the girls and I were exchanging messages throughout the day. Shen, Sophie, Jheng and my bestfriend, Dang have all been my constant companions since three months ago that I finally decided to ham it up to life and try living entirely on my own. Yes, ala Carrie Bradshaw. For many months, I’d been deciding what to call how it feels and last night, while reading the May issue of Real Simple, where a lady comes back to her former home and calls her former love writes about how she chose the path where she is now --- that it had been like walking on a tightrope but it she loved it because hope sustains us and that love takes many forms, including the one for self.



It had been like walking on a tightrope. Every step of the way is either a triumph or a small loss. It hasn’t been an entirely losing battle --- and I know it won’t be. But I have to say everyday has been a challenge.

“Do you miss your nieces and nephews?” asked my mentor and great friend J. I used to live next door to my baby nieces and nephews and whenever I felt somber, I always came up to them and cuddled them like little puppies. “Of course, I do. I just see them every other week now but this is the way it has to be,” I said.

Granted, living solo has its grievances --- but mostly it has been a joyous experience. I get to learn about myself. It started with the fact that I after all, didn’t need so much to exist. Like a certain showbiz personality, I slept on the floor for a few weeks while waiting for my bed to arrive. I’ve whittled down the pairs of shoes I own and I can, in fact, be a good hostess, after all. The dishes may have been such a chore but with Shen’s technique (aka cheering yourself while doing the dishes “Hell to the yeah!), dishes and cleaning the bathroom have been extremely fun.

And because instead of feeling morose as I usually do on this kind of day (it is Mothers’ Day morning as I type this), I would just like to share with you five things I am grateful for today, the past weeks, and in the future. There can never be too much gratitude to feel --- so I hope that in so doing, I will spread the good feeling it has been giving me.

1. Team E girls. I honestly do not know where I would be on several days that the girls have picked me up from “lusak” as we call it. There are days when a human feels her lowest and when I am in my lowest of lows, they are always there to cheer me up, spray me lavender oils (hello, Sophie!), show photos of boudoirs (Jamie!) sing crazy songs with me (Shots!), make my bed and do my dishes (thank you, BFF!) and cheer the dishes with me (Shenny!). Life has truly been like Carrie and the girls and I am ever so grateful for having found these girls in my life.

2. Linen Spray, All is Well and high thread count sheets. For Jheng’s birthday, we all drove up to her hometown in Bataan. It was my first time to sleep beside Sophie, whom I discovered to be such a luxurious sleeper! Through her, I discovered the miracle ball (which relieves back pains etc.), the So True Naturals Lavender Linen Spray that put me to sleep for 12 hours (yes, ask anyone), and All is Well oil from Zenutrients. AH! Heaven! When I returned to Manila, I was having withdrawal symptoms so Sophie came to my rescue with the spray and oil. As for me, to complete my new luxurious sleeping habit, I changed all sheets to my highest thread count ones and slept for hours on end at my home.

3. Aerosmith’s The Global Warming Tour. It has been five days since I was rocking out to Steven Tyler and the rest of Aerosmith but until now, I have goosebumps from Steven’s performance. ANG GALING! When Manila Concert Scene first announced it, I already screamed in anticipation but sort of waned out when I saw the prices because they weren’t cheap! But hey, Steven Tyler is Steven Tyler. I prayed for days and thought about it like I was embarking on a big journey. In the end, I allowed myself the little joy of seeing a rock legend live and after the concert, I was truly, truly grateful that all odds were in my favor to make it happen. I am a very happy girl.

With my friends Johann and Rose at the Aerosmith concert. LOVED THIS CONCERT SO MUCH!

4. Travel plans. I think it was in Forbes Magazine, or Fast Co. or INC where I read it that one’s high on making travel plans is much higher after the travel itself. I am somewhere in there right now and it surprises me that the feeling of wanderlust is stronger than ever. For a while (and maybe because I was so focused on nesting and chores) that I have forgotten what it felt like to be in new soil, immersing in culture you’ve only read up in books and hearing languages you don’t understand. I am on a travel planning high and I can’t wait!

5. Faith. “When you have nowhere else to go, look up,” said my good friend Jheng. And when she does that, I am always in tears at how could I even forget going to God when I have troubles. I admit that I am a very un-Christian Christian. I sin in so many ways every day and despite reading the Bible and attending small group meetings and worship services and listening to The Anthem on repeat. And despite all of that, faith saves me --- and makes me believe that despite being more wicked than I would ever dare find out, I am loved more than I would ever dare realize.

And to you, my dear reader, thank you for always indulging my thoughts. I hope that you have a great and blessed day.

xx

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Do Millenials Really?

>> Friday, May 10, 2013

This TIME cover came out last night online and as someone born in the 80s, I had some deep thinking to do.

Cover by TIME Magazine

Those aren’t just unfounded negative stereotypes about 80 million Americans born roughly between 1980 and 2000. They’re backed up by a decade of sociological research. The National Institutes of Health found that for people in their 20s, Narcissistic Personality Disorder is three times as high than the generation that’s 65 or older. In 1992, 80 percent of people under 23 wanted to one day have a job with greater responsibility; ten years later, 60 percent did. Millennials received so many participation trophies growing up that 40 percent of them think they should be promoted every two years – regardless of performance. They’re so hopeful about the future you might think they hadn’t heard of something called the Great Recession.

Source - Josh Sanburn http://nation.time.com/2013/05/09/millennials-the-next-greatest-generation/#ixzz2SrxJZxaV


Even in China, where family history is more important than any individual, the Internet, urbanization and the one-child policy have created a generation as overconfident and self-involved as the Western one. And these aren't just rich-kid problems: poor millennials have even higher rates of narcissism, materialism and technology addiction in their ghetto-fabulous lives.

I couldn't exactly say that the entire article was unfounded --- I had to go through several paragraphs of research and statistics that proved that our generation has indeed become too self-involved. In an attempt at both pseudo humility and proving the article's point, I had to look at myself and realized that I am a very good example of Me, Me, Me. I've been a victim of too much Instagramming and talking about myself that there are days that I drive myself crazy thinking about myself, what I need, what I want and where I need to be.

I had been talking with a blogger I look up to {Hi, F!} and she mentioned to me that she reads my blog now that I don't talk so much about beauty --- and instead, err, well, non-beauty stuff. "I've grown up," I told her. "I've gotten sick of my face plastered all over my monitor, actually." And that is the truth. There was a time that I've gotten so abhorrent towards beauty blogging and vanity that I got into 'inspirational' blogging instead.

And I mean it. But even then, every single day, I find myself plastering my life all over the Internet as I am doing this very minute. I find tapping on my iPad when I'm away from my Mac and I find myself liking my virtual friends more than some people I meet sometimes.

Oh. :s

But in the end, Joel Stein redeems the millenials -- as they often do. And maybe, despite the self-entitlement, the piggybacking on parents, the narcissistic lifestyle, there is hope that even the generations after us will not emerge into a Me, Me, Me, Me one.


So, yes, we have all that data about narcissism and laziness and entitlement. But a generation's greatness isn't determined by data; it's determined by how they react to the challenges that befall them. And, just as important, by how we react to them. Whether you think millennials are the new greatest generation of optimistic entrepreneurs or a group of 80 million people about to implode in a dwarf star of tears when their expectations are unmet depends largely on how you view change. Me, I choose to believe in the children. God knows they do.



What do you think?


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Lipstick Fridays: BYS Matte Lipsticks

"Can I get a hell yeah?"

Somebody or the other once said that one of the better ways to have a better day is faking it. My version of doing that is making it a point I try on a new lipstick everyday {provided there are options, of course}.

Today's pick are BYS Matte Lipsticks. Thank you for the gifts, Shenny!

BYS Pink Before You Speak

BYS Daydreamer




Happy Friday!
xx

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Color Crush: Pink + Red

>> Wednesday, May 8, 2013











Happy Wednesday! It's a happy day today cos am watching Aerosmith!
xx



*Images from top to third from bottom are not mine. No copyright infringement intended.

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It's down to me, I gotta tell you something

>> Tuesday, May 7, 2013

One more sleep to go. See you, Steve.

Cryin | Aerosmith

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The Non Negotiables

>> Thursday, May 2, 2013

If you never know where you want to be, you will never get to it.

I cannot exactly remember who it was who told me that, but I'm pretty sure it was one of the many women in my life, like my grandma {who sends me food at every chance she gets}, or my mother, or my women heroes.

You see, I was never one to think about non-negotiables, especially in the arena of choosing a partner. It's like when you're about to be blessed with a child, and a mother will always just wish the child is normal. It's either you hope / wish for one, or not at all.

And I do want one. Well, eventually. Because I feel like I am a lot older when I started this blog, and when I started my rounds of blind dating, I feel like I've finally arrived at that point where it is unacceptable to have no definite standards. Having no standards means falling for everything else, which can explain my rather 'interesting' taste in previous partners. That's not to say that that statement is loaded with regret but rather, this time, as I have taken an active stance on my finances, I'm taking an active stance on who I want to be with for the rest of my life.

Disclaimer #2: That's not to say that I am going back to becoming the serial dater I once was. This time, I am listing down what I would not sacrifice or negotiate for. I have stopped dating for the past years after realizing how it's almost always a waste of my and the guy's time as we are always on our best feet forward and therefore never revealing who we really are. Disclaimer #3: These are my own non-negotiables and I am not pushing them down your throats. I am merely stating them for myself, that I may always remember the characteristics and desired results I have noted for myself, and myself alone.

Without further ado {and disclaimers}, here are my non-negotiables for my future husband:

1. Same set of values. I value my faith, my family, passion, learning, hard work, integrity, among many other things. I do know that a disagreement to any of the major values I adhere to will be a huge source of fight so this is a foremost characteristic I would like to have in a man.

2. In relation to having the same set of values, having the same understanding of love is something I would appreciate. I admit to not being a perfect student of the Bible nor Christianity and I remain to be a work in progress everyday but getting to know God's love has given me a wide-angle view of what used to be shallow, if not opposite, understanding of the most underrated and overtly used word that is love. Loving someone means being patient, kind, not envying, not boasting, humbling ourselves, not being rude, not seeking our own ends, not being easily angered, it’s rejoicing in the truth, always protecting, always trusting, always hoping, and always persevering. Tough --- but when we both understand that, the journey of marriage will be smoother than having to remain under the shadows of my petty views.

3. Understands that marriage is a partnership and not a vehicle to have someone cook breakfast. While that, of course, is a tongue in cheek way of saying things, I want to reiterate that such relationship calls for being together, growing in the Lord together, amongst many things --- and not because one of the two is a cheerleader and the other one craves for attention, romantic words or praises. It will be there, sure --- but any relationship based on only good things is doomed to fail.

4. Be passionate about something. I had my share of 'lost' boys to mother when I was younger and while I do know that being boys will always be less mature with women of the same age, I would want to be with someone who is passionate about something of worth other than playing video games, catching women, cars or sports. Or me.



That's it for today. Maybe there will be some more in the future. After all, it's too early to be thinking about this anyway.
Happy Monday!





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Death could not hold you down

Today. On repeat. Thanks for sharing, P!


Hallelujah!
You have won the victory.
Hallelujah!
You have won it all for me.

Death could not hold you down
You are the risen king
Seated in Majesty
You are the risen king





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Chronicles of Eye Creams: Benefit's It's Potent Eye Cream

>> Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Ah, eye creams.


Back when I was 22, I didn't exactly feel the burning need to apply eye cream every night. When you're 22, can drink vodkas, Malibus and all sorts of alcohol and come to work fresh as a daisy, you would believe that you're invincible.

At 27, it is of course, different. Lines around the lips start to appear {if you're not careful}. Bags show a wee bit of themselves every time you miss your eight hours of shut eye and your skin is dull when you spend too much time under the sun.

I'm glad I started early into this beauty thing early --- I have started using eye cream as early as 21. Six years after, there are signs of *wisdom* ergo eyes now appear a bit smarter, wearier but more knowing. But at least, not as bad as I'd be scared them to be.

Today, ill be sharing with you another addition to the few brands I'm using as eye cream is Benefit's It's Potent Eye Cream:

brightening eye cream to fade dark circles


Your eyes can't keep a secret...they're the first to show signs of age & stress. It's potent! eye cream fades dark circles & helps smooth fine lines for brighter, younger-looking eyes. Contains a peptide complex known to help restore elasticity & firmness, a blend of hydrating botanical extracts including apple extract, known to help boost collagen, & loquat extract, known to help protect the skin from free radical damage.


While I didn't have dark eye bags to begin with, my observation is that the lines aren't so deep when I use this at night. On top of that, some of my other observations are as follows:


  1. Creamy. I love the texture --- and the fact that it dissolves onto the skin. As taught by Benefit's fun gals Paula, Donna and Rione, the best formula to hide eyebags is this cream, Fake Up, High Beam and Watts Up {I think it may have been something else, ugh, signs of aging!}. I tried it once with Fake UP and High Beam and WOW! The experience of application is pretty rich. That's two thumbs up!
  2. No funky smell.
  3. Doesn't hurt the eyes. I once got this on to my eyes and it didn't hurt.
  4. Absorbed easily. You know how some moisturizers and creams aren't absorbed as fast? This one isn't. My typical night routine involves the eyecream being the last to be applied. Normally, I read a book before putting on my sleeping mask. This means that I have to dry my eye cream first before I do and guess what, it dries quickly!
  5. The Php 1,800 price tag would justify itself once I'm done with the jar --- I am not yet sure how long this one will last me. By then, I would know if the effects won't wear out. If you're not iffy to spend that money on eye cream though, I would quickly suggest this one. 
  6. Remember when applying eye cream: Apply on the side of your eyes and on your eyelids, too.

Overall: It's never too early to start using eye cream. I promise.


Thoughts on eye creams?
xx


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